Life Lately ♥

I’ve not written a proper blog post for over a month now, which is surreal to me because previously I was constantly fretful if I didn’t update with a new post every few days. But things change, and unfortunately my little internet space has taken a back seat lately. 
Things have been difficult for me. A struggle. Nothing has been normal and I’ve just kind of been floating around aimlessly; waiting for the days to end just so I can go to sleep and turn my brain off for a few hours. It’s hard to focus on things when my mind is constantly wandering on what ‘could have been’ or thinking about what I could have done differently. 
Love is a peculiar thing and everyone goes through heartbreak sooner or later. Even though I feel like I’m the only person that has ever been through this and no one understands, it’s pathetic of me to look at things that way. There are much worse things going on in the world than me having a sulk over a boy.
But I try to tell myself things will be okay and that life will go on. I know I will be fine and I am better than this. I should forget about it and move on. But it’s easier said than done, and six years with someone you had planned your future with and suddenly you are nothing to him is hard. Crying day and night doesn’t make things better. Opening up all of your feelings to someone that isn’t in the slightest bit interested in you doesn’t help the situation. You can’t force love, and a complicated relationship will inevitably equal a very complicated break up.
Despite being the dullest person ever to be around lately, I have realised that I have the most amazing friends and family to support me. Colleagues, people I used to work with, college friends, internet pals. Even old school friends I’ve not spoken to in years, and complete strangers have been sending me little messages to help me through, and inviting me out and about to try and get my mind off  things. I have all these people that do love and care about me so why should I focus on someone who doesn’t.  If he is able to move on so quickly then I should be able to as well.
I know that in time I will be okay. It’s just taking longer than I had anticipated. 

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19 Comments

  1. May 10, 2015 / 10:15 am

    Sending lots of love to you 🙂 xxxx

  2. May 10, 2015 / 10:29 am

    Aw ;( sending you a big hug. This makes me so sad to read this but I think you're brave for writing this and trying to move on. I too split with my ex after six years. I moved away for a job and he didn't support me so eventually it fizzled. He then got engaged to someone else within three months and then less than a year later got married. However, 3.5 years later , my life is so different and for the better. Things will get better for you too. It's okay to have a break: it makes you real 🙂 take care xxx

  3. May 10, 2015 / 12:50 pm

    I am sorry to hear this, it must be a hard time for you at the moment. I am sure with the help of other people you will feel better soon.
    All the best.

  4. May 10, 2015 / 1:21 pm

    I'm sorry you're going through a tough time at this moment but at least you have good support around you! You should look forward to moving on and eventually looking back at this and laugh 🙂

    Natalie Ann xo // Petal Poppet Blogs ♥

  5. May 10, 2015 / 1:39 pm

    Oh I'm so sorry you're going through such a hard time now! Just remember that this is not forever and you'll get through this. You have all the love you need! Sending some love & prayers your way! x

  6. May 10, 2015 / 2:35 pm

    You are so brave to write this and my heart goes out to you. It's a really horrible thing to have to go through, I've been there several times after long term relationships and each one doesn't get any easier, but you learn from it and eventually learn to cope and get through it. Be strong, know that if he has treated you badly you are better off without him and you deserve someone who does care for you! Take care xx

  7. May 10, 2015 / 2:47 pm

    Sending you lots of love and hugs. Time is a great healer, I promise. I know it doesn't make things easier right now, but you will come out the other end of this so much stronger <3 Always here for you if you want to have a chat xx

  8. May 10, 2015 / 4:35 pm

    I know I don't know you personally but I've been following your blog for a while and ive missed you!

    Anyway, I know first hand how difficult a break up can be, especially if you're not the one that instigated it. I had my heart broken … Actually smashed into a million pieces by my ex boyfriend just before I went to uni, but what I want to tell you is that it will get better. Sometimes you'll cry, and sometimes you'll just eat a whole tub of Ben and jerrys. But gradually it starts to get better. At first I decided I would never do it again but then just a year later I met someone else, someone so much better for me and you'll do the same.

    Just focus on you right now and know there's always people you can talk to – including me xx

    Charlotte

  9. May 10, 2015 / 7:25 pm

    I'm sorry to hear that. Do things with your friends and spend time with them and your family. It won't seem like it but in a year from now you will be in a happy place i promise.xx

  10. May 10, 2015 / 8:12 pm

    Long time reader here. The guy is an absolute fool for letting you go. But thank god he's revealed himself as such now instead of letting you waste all your beautiful, precious 20's, on him. When you get older, you realise how short, and powerful, your 20's are. Don't waste your time on fools, or tears for fools, any longer than you can help. You'll always remember the highlights with this guy, but I assure you that there are a million more sparkling moments in the future with someone who thinks the world of you and who will treasure you forever.

  11. May 11, 2015 / 2:17 am

    Victoria,you must know that probably there is someone better waiting for you. Waiting to share life with you and fulfil your dreams! Just take your time and belive me,there are lot of people around you,loving you and wishing you all the best. Be brave!

  12. May 11, 2015 / 10:41 am

    Such a horrible thing to have to read, and I'm so sorry you've had to feel like this. You're still young, have your life ahead of you and things will get better as hard as that is to believe right now. Enjoy yourself, your future is waiting for you!

    Christie x
    http://christieslifestyle.blogspot.co.uk/

  13. May 11, 2015 / 12:28 pm

    So sorry to hear you're having such a tough time at the moment Victoria. I've been following your blog for over a year now, and can't believe this is my first comment. Such a sad thing to read, keep your chin up sweet, time is a healer and you'll find it a little easier every day. Sending lots of love and hugs! x

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  14. May 11, 2015 / 6:39 pm

    Sorry to hear that but slowly as days go by, you will realise that there are more things in life to look forward to. And although it's really hard to move on as of now, one day you will definitely emerge stronger than before. You're still young and your future soul mate is waiting for you. Take care and hugs! x

  15. May 11, 2015 / 8:18 pm

    Aw, I really feel for you and echo the words of others above. Try and focus on other things, your blog is fab so maybe refocus some of that energy on here? Easy to say I know. So nice to see the love you are getting here and on facebook. Hope you're ok xx

  16. May 11, 2015 / 10:40 pm

    I'm really sorry to hear what you've been going through hun. I don't know you but I do know how it feels to go through a bad relationship and then a bad breakup. I myself was with a guy who slept with over 30 girls behind my back (they're the ones I know about) and in the end he was the one who ended it with me for someone else and it broke my heart. A few years on and I'm with the most amazing guy I could ever dream of being with and I've never been happier. As hard as it is, try and keep yourself occupied and day by day it will get easier. You will have set backs but then you'll wake up again feeling much more positive =) I hope you're okay xx

    Jadey | http://www.missjadey.co.uk

  17. May 15, 2015 / 8:28 pm

    I wish there was something to say to you, to make you feel remotely better. But, I know sometimes words aren't enough.
    You're an amazing girl, and if someone will walk out of your life, with no remorse, then they aren't worth any time.
    I really hope you feel better soon, and you slowly get back to your normal self.

    I've read your blog and followed you for 3 years… You're a beautiful person – You'll find someone just perfect for you.

    (Even if I have to tell myself that!) xx

  18. May 26, 2015 / 8:04 pm

    Hi all, I commented on this post a couple of weeks ago (10 May) little did I know then I would be in the same position as Victoria now! I just wanted to say reading all your comments to her post, at least makes me feel a little less alone right now, we've all been through it and come out the other side. I'm yet to get to that but I know it will come with time. Best wishes to you and sending hugs. Dani x

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